This Week - First timer, Unsafe sex and Doing the dirty
QUESTION : Hi, I have met some people on the internet and it is getting to the stage where they want to meet and get things moving. I want to meet them but I am a little scared that they are going to hurt me some how. Also it will be the first time I have had any kind of sex and would like some advice on how to prepare myself. Thanks for your help.
ANSWER: You should not be afraid of your first sexual experience although you should make yourself very aware of what may or may not happen. If you are having sex with someone who has more experience than you then obviously they will know what they like whereas you may not. It is important to never do anything that you don't want to do and more importantly you should never do anything that is unsafe or hurts you in any way as pain is your body's way of telling you that something is wrong.
Think about some of the things that may happen when you have sex with a guy ... kissing, sucking each other's cocks, licking arse (also called rimming), fucking etc... and think about which of them you think you will enjoy. If the guy you are with does something or wants to do something that you don't like the idea of, or he does something and it starts to hurt or you don't like it then just tell him to stop, and say you don't like that!
The most important thing is to get yourself prepared. Make sure you look and smell good, besides being nice for the other guy it will also give you confidence. Work out what you want from the occasion, and have some sort of a game plan. If you think that you like the idea of being fucked for example then you can play with dildos for a week or two before! Buy a small one and practice slowly on yourself with loads of lube and taking it really slowly!
If you don't think that's for you at this stage then make it clear to him, and stick to it. Think about the activities you think you'd like and those you wouldn't and if you need some more information read some magazines or books.
Be very careful where you meet guys off the internet - it is best to meet someone you don't know in a public place first, maybe go for a drink and then if you get on you can go back to your place for sex. The most important thing on your first sexual experience is not to let your excitement get carried away so that you are not in control - whatever you do always use a condom, with plenty of lube and when going on a sex date always take them with you. Don't assume the other guy will have them!
