18.A TART IN THE FAMILY !!
Hi Dr. Love,
I do not know where to begin writing my problem to you. It is all very complicated. I am 21 years old and gay, no one in my family knows about this except for my sister who is 25 years old. We are very very close siblings and we do everything together, she has been more than understanding about me being gay and I love her very very much. She has been dating this guy for the past 3 months and I know that she is not sexually active as the culture that we come from , i mean our backgrounds does not permit it. We are both very beautiful people and do have our following. The problem is that she has a 26 year old Bf and he is a nice guy.
Last weekend she went away with her friends on a trip and well since all of us kind of hang together , i maen we kind of have the same set of friends, I went clubbing and met up with my sisters Bf. we all had a drinks and had a good time. When it was time to go home my sisters Bf offered to drop me, so i agreed seeing no harm in it, well as we got home, I noticed that my sisters Bf was in no state to drive to his place and i asked him if he wanted to spend teh night at our house, so he agreed, well i have a double bed and he said he would sleep in my room, i gave himn a pair of shorts to wear and i wore my Pyjamas, it was too hot so he did not slep with a shirt, I gavce him a seperate blanket and well we went to sleep. During the night I could feel him moving closer to me and we were both tipsy, so i moved closer to him too, at one point we started touching each other and then i turned around and we started kissing, shortly after we had oral sex rather i sucked him off, then we went back to sleep after a few hours i woke up beacuse my ass was feeling very very sore and the pain was terribleso when i looked i had cum all over me on my ass and my sisters Bf wass lying there naked and so was i ? Still a bit tipsy i started kissing his nipples and he woke up and started kisssing me , so we had sex again andw ent to sleep....
when i woke up in the morning he was already gone !!!!
What should i do the guilt is killing me. Please help....
From a Member !
Dear Tart { i think calling you anything else would be kindness},
I dont even know what it is that I can tell you, to start off with you have totally messed your relationship with your sister. At the same time she will never ever look at you with respect and will think 50 times from now on before ever bringing one of her boyfriends anywhere close to you.
The reason being, First and foremost she does not need a loser boyfriend like the one that you slept with in her life, thats a given. If you say you love your sister very very much the honourable thing to do is to tell her exactly what happened. To a certain extent it is not all your fault as this guy was simply horney and needed an outlet under the influence of Alcohol, but you should have been in your senses and realised that THIS IS YOUR SISTERS BOYFRIEND FOR PETE'S SAKE and you should have either changed rooms or kicked him off the bed.
The fact that he treated you like a prostitute is very apparent, I mean you gave him a Blow Job. He rode your ass like he would a one night stand and you initiated sex a second time and finally he left you HIGH & DRY in the morning. No doubt he is a loser, but i really feel for your sorry ass.
So you have to get him out of your sisters life by telling her what happened and remember you will have to face the consequences which will not be very pleasant. Your sister will be scarred for a long time and its going to need a lot of healing on her side. Tell her and also mention the part about Alcohol, although i doubt that this will help.
As far as you are concerned well your sister will alawys remember you as the TART who slept with her boyfriend and there is going to be alot of work on your part to get back into her good books.
I wish you luck in the healing process with your sister and please keep the group posted as to what happened because I am sure many others face the same problem wether gay or straight....
Good luck and think with your head next time, Dont be a Tart..
Have a Tarty day wont you ..
