question:
date: 2007-02-05 19:18:27
I have twin boys that have just turned 16
And i suspect that they are both gay from observing them. but my concern
is that they are gay but i think they may be having sex with each other.
Twice now i have walked in on them rubbing each other up. I have even
split then by rooms.
ANS.1.You can't change who or what they are.
They are not harming themselves, or anyone else, so I would leave well
alone.
Would you be concerned if they played tennis together, or football, or went
to a movie together ?
Sex is a perfectly natural passtime, and we need to get away from the idea
that it's dirty or sinful.
I also think we need to get away from the idea that every young man who
experiments with his twin/brother/ same sex friend, is necessarily gay.
2.I just wanted to put a little different perspective on this...When I was younger, I used to have sex with my brothers...I loved it...They grew up straight and I grew up Bi sexual...None of us have any screwed up emotions or lives because of it...We helped each other to explore our sexuality..
We are close today because of it...
Deal with them open and honestly...Advise them to do the same...
Personally, I see nothing wrong with it...They could be doing much worse...
3.I suggest you talk to them and try understand them. Don't be mad at them, be nice to them and let them know that you are willing to listen to them. Make them feel comfortable talking about their sexuality with you. And once you feel they are comfortable, then ask your question in a polite way. Trust me it will help.
take care
4.If the twins are gay, learn to accept it. Trying to get them into a female relationship will only complicate matters. Evidently, the parent does not accept gays, even their own sons if they should be gay. Very sad, very upsetting for the twins as well to know they are not seen for who they are.
5.I am a twin and had sex with my brother from 13 years old. He married and has children. Now straight as a die. Me, I am gay, so what is the issue. We are what we are and no amount of persausion will change this.
Yes, talk to the boys, explain your worries, they may open up, they will certainly be ambarrassed by your remarks/observation s but let them know that you have their best interests at heart.
Tell them that their decision will receive your full backing and whatever their path may be you will always love them.
I wish I had a father that could have understood by problems and that other people were around to offer advice.
6.I guess I dont understand. Do you think they are going to have babies? Brothers often have sex with each other if they are close. There is nothing wrong with it and if you make a big deal of it, that will cause the problem.
Leave them alone, they will learn.
