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Q.date: 2007-02-24

Hi im 17yo and openly gay. Even at school. But i find it really hard find guys that r around my age and gay. I often get a crush on a guys but never no how 2 approach them in a way that will not be takin the wrong way if they r not gay or interested in guys. Any tips on how i could approach them in a way that is clear but i would still be able 2 blow it of as nudin if they r straight?

ANS.This is an age old question, and one that most gay males have faced in their lives. Even as adults this is an on going struggle. The one thing you DON'T want to do is to be aggressive and wind up with a poor reputation or to ostracise yourself from your peers. Don't let sexual and emotional frustration and loneliness get the best of you.

There were many times in high-school, and there've been MANY times since, that I finally approached someone only to be "shot down". And none of us wants to be rejected. Always remember that rejection in the greatest fear humans have.

The best thing you can do is to build a strong frienship with two or three people close to you.......male or female (gilrs can often be your greatest ally on this front). Develop friendships with people who will accept you as you are and with whom you feel comfortable discussing your feelings and frustrations. They will be happy to give you advice and will usually help you seek out those whom you can safely approach. Often times they will help set the stage for you so that the person is more receptive when you approach them.

I don't know how large your school is, but if there are more than 200 students, you can probably bet that you are not the only gay student. The others, however, are probably very closeted out of fear and would hesitate to appraoch YOU for fear of being outed. So always keep a reputation as a trustworthy and caring person and ALWAYS keep others sexual identity and "sectrets" safe until THEY are ready to reveal them to others. Outing someone, even by accident, is a terrible and cruel thing to do.

Finally, don't despair. Hang in there and take things one day at a time.
And until you finally start meeting other guys just remember that you hand may have to be your best friend for now.


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