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16.TECHNIQUES OF MASTURBATION BY YOURSELF | gaysexguide


16.TECHNIQUES OF MASTURBATION BY YOURSELF
TECHNIQUES OF MASTURBATION BY YOURSELF

Masturbation is a joy. I am thoroughly convinced that God gave
people hands with fingers so that we could stroke ourselves in
pleasure and comfort. Those men who've not discovered the
satisfaction of jacking off, are definitely missing something.

There is only one problem I can think of in masturbating, that
someone would thing it was a bad thing to do, would feel guilty
during and after, or worse yet wouldn't do it altogether. The
suppression of pleasurable masturbation is one of the great ills
of our society, for masturbation is one of the basic functions of
existence; those who deny or ignore it do so at the risk of
increasing their own sense of frustration and grimness in the
world.

Jacking off, besides feeling good serves many useful purposes. It
can be relaxing, reassuring, energizing, encouraging, spontaneous
and charming. You can do it quick, slow, with hands, pillows,
melons and showers, in a bathroom, behind a bush or on the bus,
dry or with oils, while listening to music, looking at pictures,
or imagining. It is an anywhere, anytime convenience. And don't be
afraid to indulge. When your body's had enough, it'll say so.

One main trouble in masturbating is to not be embarrassed. You
could get caught! The best ways to overcome this inconvenience are
to make sure you'll have privacy, learn to do it quick, and/or
learn to do it in public without being found out. All of these are
quite possible.

I remember once I was at a picnic, and I was standing in a crowd.
It was so hot that many people had taken off their shoes and
shirts. Then I saw across from me such a beautiful boy that I
almost had to leave, I got so excited. Luckily, I was wearing my
old baggy navy pants, and the pockets were worn through. I slung
my coat over my right shoulder to hide my arm, and plunged my hand
down my pocket, walking into the crowd as close as I could get. I
had a great time, and I'm sure that not one of the hundreds of
people around me guessed a thing about it! (Note: for tricks of
this sort, wear tight-fitting underpants to catch the come, or
learn to hold your ejaculation inside when you come, so you don't
make a sticky mess.)

Mechanically speaking, masturbation for males is friction against
the fraenum, or "whang-string," a small, string-like portion of
the penis just under the glans or "head" at the backside. The
fraenum has the highest concentration of sexsensual nerve endings
in the body. Many actions can stimulate this area; an object can
rub against the penis, the penis can move against something, or no
motion can happen at all. This last might easily happen, since
fantasy and mind stimulation play such a big role; wet dreams are
a good example of this. I have a friend who sometimes comes to
orgasm while meditating, after his yoga practice.

Although I'll restrict myself here to "jacking-off", using the
hand, be aware that with a little imagination and creativity other
ways can be found. There are many things you can discover about
yourself with your hands. The hands are very sensitive to touch,
and the penis is even more so.
Every person develops their own way of jacking off. If you've ever
had others do it to you, you discover that usually they can't make
the feelings quite as good as you can yourself. That's because
they're probably using their style on you, which fits for them but
isn't yours. Style involves such things as how the fingers hold
the penis which fingers are used, how tight they are, how hard
they press, how much movement, use of the foreskin and how much
sensitivity towards drawing out the feelings. All these are
important.

Some people like to wrap the whole hand around their penis and
slide it all the way up and down in long, luxurious strokes, using
oils or a flexible foreskin, Others like to place the thumb and
two fingers around the corona (that part of the penis just below
the glans), with one finger over the fraenum, and pump in short,
quick movements with the skin.

There is room for exploration and creativity in masturbation.
Fantasy plays a big part, and in your mind you can be loving
someone else or yourself. You can imagine your last sexual act, or
an erotic fantasy, or looking at pictures or a story. Fantasies
are especially intriguing; they are the images and events of your
inner and secret wishes. Even if they seem strange or something
you wouldn't want anyone to find out about that's OK who's going
to know if you don't tell?

Loving yourself through masturbation means caressing your own body,
holding it, making love to you, appreciating you/your experience as
hand and penis, body and mind. it's unique.

A MASTURBATION FANTASY

Let me take you on a fantasy; You'll need privacy and quiet, some
enjoyable music (something warm and not too loud), candles and oil
(olive oil, safflower oil, massage or love oil, baby/mineral oil,
Vaseline, KY or any clean lubricating substance are all good).
It's night time outside. First, light clothes and, lying down on
the bed, close your eyes. Take a deep, relaxing breath. Imagine
that you are a stranger meeting your body, that it's new to you,
that you're touching it for the first time. Start at the top of
your head, and explore yourself with your hands, as sensations
you've never felt before. Feel your hair, the shape of your head,
then your face, your ears. Glide your fingers over each part,
trying to feel the shape, the texture, as if you'd never felt them
before. Notice the softness of you eyelids, the sensitivity of
your lips. Then caress your throat, your shoulders and chest. Find
a nipple, and flick a fingertip over and around it, feeling it
grow hard and excited. Glide your palms over your stomach,
pressing down on your soft middle. Trace designs around your nave.
Slowly let your hands press lower. Discover how your pubic hair
begins; how does it feel: Seek out the lines where you legs join
your stomach. Trace the line with your fingertip down onto the
groove between leg and crotch, until you brush your testicles.
Press your soft warm hands onto the insides of your thighs. Stroke
your thighs, feeling their sensitivity, their shape, their
thickness. Brush the hair lightly. Then discover ho your ass ends
underneath. then glide up under your testicles, tracing a ring
around them. Hold them warmly in your hand, feeling each, then
press them gently against your body. Now discover the shape of
your penis with one fingertip. Trace a line around the base, then
up the side to the top. Lightly brush the side, the fraenum, the
glans and tip. Wrap one hand carefully around the whole penis, and
squeeze gently. Pull on it a little, then let it go. Find the
fraenum with your fingertip, and press there (You may have to pull
down your foreskin). Discover the most sensitive point, and brush
your fingertip rapidly just over that point. Press you finger
there again and massage the point gently and firmly. Then wrap
your hand around your penis and move it up and down.

Now put some oil in the cup of your hand, and caress your penis all
over, rubbing and massaging the oil evenly. Cradle your testicles
in one hand, and wrap the other around your penis. Slide you hand
up and down all the way, feeling the sensations. Explore until you
develop a pleasing rhythm, and sink into the warmth and pleasure.
Go deeper and warmer, letting the feelings grow stronger and
spread. If you want to increase sensation to stretch your
foreskin, hold down the base of you penis with thumb and
forefinger of the other hand, pulling the skin tight. Keep stroking
yourself, pausing if you like to explore somewhere else. Your
sensations will become stronger in a growing cycle of tension and
relaxation. Discover your pattern and try to draw it out. Explore
the way(s) to climax, fast or slow, with long or short strokes,
pumping fast and rough, or gentle and calming until your heat
rises pouring out of you. Let yourself go, flow into it. Them
relax. Relax deeply, doing nothing, emptying your mind and body.
Peacefulness.

This fantasy can be done just as well in the tub or shower, using
soap instead of oil. An interesting variation is to do it in front
of a mirror. You can watch yourself, you hands and body, in new
ways.

An exciting addition to masturbation can be using a finger to
caress your ass (called postillioning). While masturbating, simply
grease a finger (don't use soap) and press it at your anus-
opening, pushing firmly and gently to slide inside. You'll have to
discover how best to place your body to that reaching is easy; I
suggest bending your knees and bringing your feet to your rear,
while lying on your back, of even stretching your feet over your
head. You can also do this standing up.

Masturbation is an act of wholeness, of self creation and renewal,
whether it's a five-minute quickie or a half-hour journey. You can
become more you, more together and centered through deep and
satisfying masturbation. The moment of climax is a moment of
infinity, and under your control. Also, be aware of the
limitations of masturbation, the things it can't get you, like
another person's touching and love. Admitting your needs is the
first step to satisfying them.

Surprisingly enough, masturbation, body image, and other kinds of
sex are all related. If you like and enjoy your body, it will show
in your masturbation. Poor opinion of your body is a good thing to
recognize and deal with. Just be aware; tune in on yourself; let
yourself be and then do what needs to be done. Once you sense a
problem here, it's good to talk it over with a friend or
counselor.

A sense of relaxation and intimacy with your body is akin to being
intimate with another, and he with you. If you don't want to be
sensual with your own crotch, how can you keep this from carrying
over? Be aware of yourself as the source of all your experiences,
ideas and feelings.

Also, masturbation is a favorite shared experience. Whether you're
jacking yourself off while he watches, or you him, or using
masturbation during fellatio (sucking) or anal intercourse
(fucking), it's a basic experience and action. Throughout this
book, masturbation will be mentioned again and again as a
pleasurable activity with other actions or by itself. It serves as
a good foundation for any kind of sexual and/or intimate sharing,
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